Let’s be honest: We compare ourselves in everyday life with our colleagues, friends, family members or neighbours. But why is that? Here you can read the backgrounds about comparisons.
Personality researchers found out that there are up to twenty million different personality types and combinations (of personalty characteristics, basic desires) in this world. Because these lie in different expressions in our DNA. But nevertheless there are enormously many comparisons among humans. It is often due to the fact that many people do not know the knowledge about the basic desires of life. And so, for example, an extremely frugal woman compares herself with a rather wasteful neighbour. And the trouble spots are already pre-ordered. Or a shyly dispositioned boy is compared by his parents with the very sociable neighbour boys. Nobody gets happy with that. Our personality is super unique. And we should live according to our own personality structure rather than comparing us with others. Others work differently. Comparisons to a high degree paralyze people in their own personality development.
For reasons of social acceptance it can happen that we compare ourselves with our fellow human beings. In most cases we then have a high desire for acceptance. We want to create a good self-esteem within ourselves. So if we want to achieve a better result than our colleagues, neighbours or fellows, comparisons for reasons of motivation will be just as good. So when we think we are not good enough, we compare ourselves with our counterparts. This gives us the feeling that we can improve. However, is such an „improvement“ at all authentic and correct? And does it suit us? Everyone should certainly answer that for himself. But the topic „different personality structure“ is an important argument for not having to compare oneself.
When you compare yourself to others, you automatically become devalued. Because everyone is different and has his own normality or lives according to his own truth. If you make too many comparisons, your own creativity and creative power will dwindle. Or it doesn’t come to light at all. Because whenever you look at other people in a comparative way, you do not get enough into your own creativeness. And you’re not connected to yourself. The view to the inside is more important. And makes you more happy. If you realize you can proactively create things and situations, you will win. Then no comparison is necessary anymore. Surely you can get certain inspirations from other people. But your own business ideas, career plans and life visions are in you. When comparing permanently, your ideas wouldn’t be realized authentically. For further questions, please get in touch with me.