Fear of failure is a widespread fear. Many people live with it. And especially young self-employed people have this fear. For older people, digitalisation and the fear of the unknown are currently playing a role. Here you can read how to deal best with it. Or what you can do.
Recently I was invited to a party. At a late hour a party guest said that he had failed. He had given up his company, laid off the employees. And was now busy with jobs in a relatively foreign industry. He seemed rather unhappy. But he was no longer afraid of failure. Because he already considered himself a failure. I knew immediately that this was not true. In his statement there was far too much the need to compare oneself with others. But any professional difficulty has its justification. And nothing happens in life without reason. The following belief is very limited and somehow very „German“: „I have to make a career in an industry and grow old in it. Otherwise I am worth nothing.“ Or „I’m only worth something if I have a complete career.“ Neither is true. But it’s a question of perspective. If you change your point of view, you live more relaxed.
A more global approach is much more advisable. In the USA or Canada, professional defeats are socially accepted. That lies in their culture. In the land of unlimited possibilities, they are almost part of the good tone. If you fail with a business or go bankrupt, you open a new one. Often in a different industry. This makes you much more open-minded about professional opportunities. And the fear of failure is much lower. Thinking a little more „internationally“ therefore helps when it comes to professional setbacks or insolvencies. The world bestseller „Rich Dad – Poor Dad“ by Robert T. Kiyosaki is a good read for this topic.
As with other fears, the following measures are good fear killers: Identifying obstructive beliefs. If you identify your obstructive beliefs on this topic, you can resolve them. Then overwrite. And live by new better beliefs. Get to know the secret of the four areas of life. Secondly, if you are professionally afraid of failure, increase these three areas of life: health, social relationships and meaning. Your professional area will automatically improve. Further surround yourself with ideal people. And find mentors and supporters. In addition: Integrate gratitude into your life. Your everyday life becomes more structured and relaxed through gratitude routines. And you swing better. This also has an effect on your professional life.
It is also important to consciously strengthen one’s own self-confidence. The same applies to general trust in life. Life coaches will help you. The fear of failure disappears enormously when you are aware of one thing: We are here in the world to gain experience. No matter if you collect these experiences for God, for the universe or for another superior power. Or evolutionary. By collecting experiences, you build up an enormous amount of (self-)trust. And you will realize why you are here and what you are living for. So, what is your meaning of life? Or your calling. With it you manage to dissolve the fear of failure for yourself. Or if you are already at the bottom of the list to gain new courage. Your personal ascent is definitely ahead of you.